The Stepping Stones of Self-Awareness

Ever since I was a teenager, I can remember friends calling me an old soul or saying I was mature for my age. But as the years passed, I realized that what was identified as being an old soul or mature was actually self-awareness. Growing up, I was sure of myself and confident in speaking my mind without consideration of how my opinions or beliefs were perceived or interpreted. Not because I didn’t care, but because I felt that (blunt) self-expression was natural.

For as long as I could remember, I’ve been obsessed with understanding human behavior. I’m observant, analytical and a problem solver. I enjoy listening to others and providing guidance and advice that leads people to their personal growth and evolution. 

Here are two stepping stones that can serve anyone in their journey towards self-awareness:

DON’T FEAR DISCOMFORT

In all of our journeys towards self-awareness, we’re all going to have to confront emotional or mental baggage. For one person, it may be confronting the emotional and mental turmoil of a toxic relationship and for someone else, it may be a different traumatizing experience. 

In order to become enlightened in self-awareness, one must first actually discover... themselves. Meditate on how you might have changed after a negative experience. 

Did you become tolerant to your pain? Did you mask the experience with distractions? Did you avoid triggering memories? Go back to ground zero of where it all started. Observe your reaction to your experience and analyze your behavior. Allow yourself to get upset again, to be disappointed, to be frustrated, to cry, to scream, to FEEL! 

Don’t fear discomfort because going through pain is a natural stage of healing. Allow yourself the opportunity to forgive and love, and grant peace to yourself and any other parties. 

DON’T FEAR CHANGE

As humans, we’re all creatures of habit. Once we get accustomed to a certain lifestyle, we tend to become attached to the familiar. 

We are attached to patterns of habit because we dislike the unknown and prefer to utilize our habits as a security blanket; we can trust what we already know.

For example, a person could prefer to struggle with trusting others because they once chose to trust the wrong person and, as a result, were hurt by the person. That person now prefers to put their faith in the habit of not trusting a new relationship (whether it be platonic or romantic) because they fear being hurt or trusting the wrong person again. 

Rather than having a spirit of willingness, forgiveness and redemption. I refer to redemption as a way of allowing another relationship change your perspective, and not restricting oneself from the good things in life, such as love and community. 

Don’t fear discomfort or change. Don’t become comfortable in your pain, in your unresolved commitment issues or whatever your habit is. Be willing to change and transform into a being of emotional and mental wellness.