Loving Yourself the Way You Would Love Others

Do you have a hard time loving yourself? Sometimes, it can be difficult to have a healthy perspective on self-love when you put yourself down, yet do the opposite with friends and family. You tell your friend, "Of course you look great in that dress!", but would you say the same thing to yourself? Here a few tips to keep in mind when loving yourself the same way with others.


I have said this SO many times on the blog, but always remember to take time for yourself. Sometimes you just have to take a break from socializing and going out to stay in and nap instead. And that's okay!

Wouldn't you tell your best friend to take a break if they could? Think the same way for yourself. Self-care is just as important as working, so remember to take some time off for yourself.


Sometimes writing down your negative thoughts can help you gain perspective on the self-talk. Would you say certain thoughts to a friend?

You wouldn't tell your closest friend that their thighs are too big, so why would you say the same thing to yourself?

By imagining your thoughts as actual things you might say, it helps to gain perspective and realize that it's negative and not helpful to worry about.


Any positive phrases you know that you would say to a friend? Write them down for yourself.

There are so many blog posts and articles with sample affirmations. My advice is to make up your own affirmations, write them down on index cards, and decorate them with your own drawings. By doing this, you can make the affirmations your own. It will be nice to look at them every day for inspiration!


Think about writing a long form letter to your friend. What would you say? You wouldn't say anything negative - you would compliment them! Here's a bit of an example below:

Dear Friend, 

You're such an awesome person and I'm so glad to be a part of your life. You're so kind and caring to others and you always have the greatest jokes :D

Once you're done with the letter, save it so you can refer back to it at any time you're feeling down about yourself.


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