Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World, by Bob Goff is a real game changer.
If you have ever been in a place where you feel like you are in an existential rut, this is the book for you. If you have ever felt like your faith in humanity is fading swiftly, this is the book for you. If you have ever felt like your life has little impact, this is the book for you. If you have ever wanted to know more about what love really looks like, this is the book for you.
This is not your ordinary self-help book, this is not a 10-Step process or a How To. It goes beyond your career or success, it encourages you to look within to find what you believe that you are meant to do while on this earth. It is a 215-page reminder, filled with stories, musings, encouragement, and words that love is the most important thing in this life.
It is hard to believe that a man like Goff even exists, especially in times such as these. How could so much good and light remain in a person? Through his stories, you can see that he is a man who has had his share of trials and troubles but does not let that keep him from doing what he believes he is born to do.
When you read his words, he does not sound like a therapist or preacher, but more like a friend or a guardian angel. He does not want to change who you are, he wants to change how you think about how you see life and yourself. It is almost like he found a huge pot of gold, only he has the intention of sharing it with every soul that he possibly can.
His words are not written in vain, or for gain, but as a gift to others so that they may see the rich and fullness of life that has been revealed to him.
Here are just a few nuggets, from Goff’s pot of gold book, “Love Does”.
“I used to be afraid of failing at something that really mattered to me, but now I'm more afraid of succeeding at things that don't matter."
“I used to want to fix people, but now I just want to be with them.”
“You don't need a plan; you just need to be present.”
“I used to think you had to be special for God to use you, but now I know you simply need to say yes.”
“If we only do what we’re familiar with, we might miss what we’ve been made for.”
“While you’re figuring out what God wants you to do next — go love everybody.”
“It has always seemed to me that broken things, just like broken people, get used more; it's probably because God has more pieces to work with.”
“Being engaged is a way of doing life, a way of living and loving. It's about going to extremes and expressing the bright hope that life offers us, a hope that makes us brave and expels darkness with light. That's what I want my life to be all about - full of abandon, whimsy, and in love.”
“Love is never stationary. In the end, love doesn’t just keep thinking about it or keep planning for it. Simply put: love does.”
As a post-grad who has been struggling with job searching, figuring out what I want to do with my life, learning to value and love myself as an individual, this book couldn’t have come into my life at a more appropriate time.
His words are a breath of fresh air in a world that often seems to be burning all around. Goff is a reminder that people are still capable of kindness and goodness. One of the most inspiring things is that he is only human, but he has never let that stop him from doing amazing things.
My fellow creatives, girl bosses, artists, heck – humans: this life will never be easy, nothing we will ever do in this life will be perfect and that is okay. Whoever we have been created to be, we are capable of amazing things, the only thing that is in your way is ourselves. So we must keep writing, creating, trying, working, and loving one another as much as we possibly can.
There won't always be outright answers, but there are resources. When you feel like you cannot produce anything, consider some positive and productive consumption. Find books that teach you something you want to know more about, make you think, encourage, uplift you.
It also makes the perfect gift for the holiday season. It is a book that leaves you better than you were before it, it is a gift that continues to give.
One of my favorite things Bob says at the end of the book is in order to find out what's next for us, we must simply take the first step.
Words are simply not enough, love DOES.