This week, I had the opportunity to chat with Lauren “Lo” Schubilske, a former Dream On Youth intern, and a lady with a heart for loving people and all things caffeine, aka my spirit animal. We spoke about #selfworthwednesday and how it has impacted our community and her life. Read on to hear about how to accept love for yourself and what she would say to middle school Lo if she were given the chance.
Hey friend! Can you tell us a little bit about what your role was with Dream On Youth, as well as who you are outside of all things DOY?
Well, I used to be an intern with DOY. I was drawn to this community because of the love, encouragement and beauty expressed on the different platforms of social media. When I was an intern, I was the caffeinated encourager (I think that was my title) and showed love and encouragement through my words on the blog. Outside of DOY, I love to encourage others, hand letter words of love, drink lots of coffee, photograph little moments of beauty and run to de-stress.
The caffeinated encourager definitely sums you up in a nutshell! (Also can I be your best friend because coffee and lettering and encouraging and photography are my favorites.) Being a former intern, and a forever part of the DOY family, I'm sure you are very familiar with #selfworthwednesday. How have you seen the hashtag affect the Dream On Youth community?
Actually, that hashtag was something that drew me to apply for the internship. I have seen it create vulnerability within the interns, but I have also seen how people within the community are more willing to share. It makes the girls behind the name more relatable and real. Self-worth is something that all girls struggle with and this hashtag has helped show me, as well as the whole community, that this is not an individual battle; we need the love and support of others, the sharing of our struggles and insecurities and the positivity to look toward the future with love and confidence in our abilities.
How have the values and ideas of #selfworthwednesday gone beyond social media and impacted and shaped your personal life?
It has showed me the values of community and self-love. In order to grow in self-worth, I’ve realized I need people to hold me accountable to check in on me, but I also need to be there for others who are struggling with things that I have personally experienced. Community is important because the people within it have all experienced similar things and therefore can help others through hardships they personally understand. It has also made me more aware of self-love in my life and how I am quick to encourage others, but not always myself. Every Wednesday, whether I am conscious of it or not, I find myself loving on myself more so than usual because I am still used to #selfworthwednesday. So, in a nutshell, this hashtag has helped me to love myself more and continue to encourage people through their hardships and towards their bright and beautiful future.
I am definitely thankful for the accountability as well. I think so many people are quick to pour in to others and give, but too often are afraid to accept that same love and encouragement for themselves. Do you have any words of advice for the beautiful ladies in the DOY community who are struggling with this?
When you wake up and go into the bathroom, look into the mirror and say “I am loved, I am worthy, I am beautiful.” Repeat as many times as you need to believe it. Another thing I do is hand letter or doodle inspiring quotes and hang them on the wall by my bed so it’s the first thing I see in the morning. Currently, my favorite quote is, “don’t be delicate; be vast and brilliant.” I also write “beloved,” or “beautiful,” or “brave,” on my wrist so that every time I look down to eat, text, or write notes in class I see an inspiring word. This is especially helpful on days where I am feeling down, tired, overworked or stressed. Overall, I have found that it is in the little things where personal encouragement is found, but you need to find what works for you. Written encouragement is one of my love languages, and painting and doodling help me to relax. If you need spoken encouragement, tell yourself you are beautiful, worthy and loved as you are (cause its true!). Really, you just need to find what works best for you cause we are all so different. It’s hard at first to love on yourself, but self-love is important in fulfilling your dreams and living happily. It won’t happen overnight, but be patient in the journey, because it will be worth it and beautiful. A lot of my inspiration came from “If You Find This Letter” by Hannah Brencher. Write love letters to yourself in the present, past and for the future. Imagine you are writing to someone else or just write down the words you want to hear in that moment.
I love that, and Hannah's words are incredibly inspiring. Beautifully said, and I know there are girls that need to hear that, so thank you for showing up and sharing your heart. One last question to end us on: if you could go back in time and leave middle school Lo with a piece of advice, what would you say to her?
Embrace your personality. Don’t try to fit in with the “in crowd,” be true to who you are and rock it. You are worthy of love and respect regardless if you dress like the other girls or listen to the same music or if you are in honors. Love what you love and work hard for what you want. Don’t be afraid to stand out; don’t be afraid to find your style. You are beautiful, you are loved and you are so needed. Your worth is not in words or in your looks or in your smarts. Be you (and rock it!) cause everyone else is taken.
Who's that girl? It's Jess!
This little lady finds joy in mountains, fuzzy socks, and Harry Potter marathons. My passions include drinking good coffee, judgement-free snacking, and laughing too loud--my friends tell me it makes them feel like comedians! I dream of traveling the world professionally, loving others as they are, and chasing light everywhere I go.